So being a mom is a strange thing. The thought that I am someone’s mother kinda freaks me out a bit. Let’s be honest, I can barely take care of myself. And, yes, my kids know this.
Motherhood changes. At first there’s this little human who can do nothing for themselves and are totally dependent on you. Then they learn how to get around on their own, feed themselves, and ask for things… if not completely in an understandable language at first. But as toddlers, they still NEED their mom (or dad, I am not leaving you guys out, just going on my own experience of being the primary child whatever-er).
Kids begin to figure out that they have their own minds, full of their own ideas and fabulousness. When baby gates stop being barriers and become mere obstacles.
AND OMG MOM LOOK I HIT MY HEAD ON THE CEILING FAN BECAUSE I LEANED MY MATRESS AGAINST THE DRESSER AND CLIMBED UP AND JUMPED OFF!!!! WOW MOM!!!!
AND HOLY MOLY WE JUST SPREAD PAINT ALL OVER THE EXTRA ROOM! AREN’T WE SIMPLY THE MOST CREATIVE KIDS EVER?
WOW COME LOOK MOM AT HOW THE DRESSER FELL ON MY SISTER WHEN WE OPENED THE BOTTOM DRAWER AND SHE SAT IN IT!
Those are the years that nearly killed me. The PLAY WITH US EVERY SECOND years… for if you turn your back on us we will destroy the world years.
Then we moved into the elementary school years. And I could breathe. Not sure how we made it, but we did. We could have actual conversations. We had fun.
Now my son just turned 14 and my daughter will turn 13 next month. In the last few years, they need me less and less… it has become more of a…
MOM, WHAT’S FOR DINNER?
MOM, DO I HAVE TO GO ANYWHERE TODAY?
MOM, I NEED NEW CLOTHES BECAUSE ALL MINE ARE TOO SMALL!
But mostly, they hang out in their rooms. They sit with their iPod, iPad, computer, Nook, or a good old fashioned book. Which is fine. I like my quiet time. I LOVE THAT MY KIDS IGNORE ME! I have trained them well.
But every once in a while, magic happens.
Yesterday, my daughter said, “Mom, do you want to play Lego Harry Potter on the Wii?”
Play with me? What?
WHY YES YES I DO!
Today, both kids asked me to play Mario Kart with them.
YES I WILL!!!! I will lose all the races and it will be fabulous. Those blog posts I have to write? They will wait. That world-building I have to finish? It’s not going anywhere.
For when the opportunity to hang out with my kids arises I do not say no. I can’t say no. Because unlike all the housework and even my writing, my kids won’t wait, not forever. Before I know it, they’ll be going to college… someday moving out!
AND THEN WHO WILL PLAY WITH ME?
Overall, I am lucky. No screaming matches, there hasn’t been door slamming. Doesn’t mean there won’t ever be, but I’ll take what I can get. My kids think I’m pretty cool, and I think they’re pretty cool.
So whenever they ask me to do something with them… the answer is always yes. Even when they do laugh at how terrible I am at Mario Kart, or when my Lego Hermione or Ironman runs willy-nilly across the screen as I yell, “I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO!” Heck, I laugh at me.
Cheers to good memories.
And if you’ll excuse me, I have to go write my post for The Midnight Society that goes up tomorrow…